The six-week holidays can be an exciting time for children, days out, holidays, and a break from routine. But for separated parents, it can raise questions:

Who will the children stay with? How will we split the time fairly? What if one of us wants to go abroad?

When you share parental responsibility, it’s important to plan ahead and communicate clearly.

At Macks Solicitors, we’re here to help you navigate the school holidays with confidence and care, so your children can enjoy their break, and you can avoid unnecessary conflict or stress.

Here’s what you need to know about making child arrangements work over the summer holidays:

Plan Ahead to Avoid Conflict

The earlier you start discussions, the smoother the holidays are likely to go. It’s a good idea to agree on:

• Where the children will be staying, and when
• Any travel or holiday plans (especially if they involve going abroad)
• How handovers will work
• Contact time with the other parent during longer stays

Try to keep arrangements balanced and fair, especially if both parents work or have commitments during the break.

Put Agreements in Writing

It doesn’t need to be formal or complicated, but a written record, whether it’s by email, text, or shared calendar can help avoid confusion. Clear communication reduces the risk of misunderstandings and can be useful if tensions arise or plans need to change.

Going Abroad? Know the Rules

If you want to take your child on holiday abroad, you’ll need written permission from everyone with parental responsibility, even if the trip is only for a few days. Without consent, taking your child overseas is a criminal offence of child abduction under UK law.

If the other parent will not agree, you can apply to the court for permission. The court will always put the child’s best interests first, so having a well-planned itinerary and reassurances about return dates can help your case.

What If We Can’t Agree?

Disagreements happen but there are constructive ways to move forward:

• Family Mediation: A neutral third party can help you work through issues and find common ground.
• Legal Advice: A family law solicitor can explain your rights and help you make informed legal decisions.
• Court Orders: If needed, you can apply for a Child Arrangements Order that sets out clear expectations for holiday contact, or a Specific Issue Order if everyone with parental responsibility for the child does not agree to a holiday abroad.

Court is usually a last resort, but in some situations, particularly where communication has broken down or there are safeguarding concerns, it may be the best way to protect your child’s wellbeing.

Keep the Focus on the Children

Above all, the holidays should be a positive time for your children. Try to avoid involving them in adult disagreements and encourage a healthy relationship with both parents. Children benefit most when they feel secure, supported, and free to enjoy their break without stress or pressure.

Contact Us Today

We understand that co-parenting isn’t always easy, especially around the holidays. Our experienced Family Law team is here to offer clear, compassionate advice tailored to your situation.

Whether you’re hoping to make arrangements peacefully or need legal support to resolve a dispute, we’ll help you find a way forward that works for you and your family. For a free initial assessment of your case call us on 01642 843 667. Alternatively, complete our online contact form and one of our family team will be in touch.